BEAUTY: Collagen Peptide Powder, Foundation & Hair Growth
*SIRENS* > I have BREAKING BEAUTY NEWS! Eeeeep - you better be on the edge of your (toilet) seat! If you’ve followed any of my beauty blogs in the past, you would know my choice of foundation lasted longer than my marriage (a decade for clarification) - UNTIL NOW! At this stage the only thing that’s lasted longer is my crush on Damian Walshe-Howling, oh Channel 7… bring back Blue Heelers! OIIIIEEY, It feels good to right about something light this week, my last post wiped me out - it’s been a crappy few weeks. On the eve of my last post about domestic violence here in Australia, I found out a very dear friend of mine lost a family member to suicide. I was an absolute mess when I wrote that post and while these feelings linger, today is a better day. I am back Strava-ing my way around Melbourne, back into Pilates and the sun is shining. So here’s to some gentle and helpful relief - I hope. For anyone who needs visual clarification on said lover, you’ll need to scroll through my beauty review. The reward is waiting!
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE - Nothing Changes if Nothing Changes…
TRIGGER WARNING: this post contains discussions and references to family violence - including: domestic violence, emotional and sexual abuse. Please continue with discretion.
AGLY Ep 07 - The Debrief
ATTACHMENT THEORY & STYLES, SOMATIC THERAPY, NPD & THE NERVOUS SYSTEM
This has to be up there as one of my favourite episodes, ever. I mean, I only have seven to choose from… but hey. I love all of them for different reasons, but it was great to be able to remove the ‘UN’ from my usual unprofessional opinion. The professional I refer to was the one and only, Elizabeth Anile - the shoe was finally on the other foot! I had my first ever experience recording a podcast with Elizabeth back in 2019, on her podcast > Lemonade. I remember being so nervous beforehand, but quickly realising it was actually such a safe and intimate setting - hence why I love this as a medium. To add to my those nerves (and the disgust at the sound of my own voice) was that Elizabeth is a journalist and TV producer - yikkkes. I have to say though, listening to her has taught me a lot about how to navigate a good interview - what to ask, how to ask and then how to really listen. In short, when I grow up, I’d like to be Elizabeth!
We spoke for nearly 78 hours and what felt like was a (free!) personal therapy session about all things: attachment theory, attachment styles and how they work/don’t work with our partner’s, the nervous system and somatic therapy, NPD vs narcissism or narcissistic traits, toxic positivity, labelling or self-diagnosing and everything in-between. While we covered some pretty heavy topics, we kept it upbeat and it’s an easy (but longish) listen. The beauty of a pause button, huh - WOO. As usual, I like to follow-up all episodes with a written debrief and include my final thoughts and any relevant resource info.
Boundaries & the Bare Minimum
“Boundaries are the distance at which I can love you and me simultaneously” - PRENTIS HEMPHILL
I think it’s time I get back in my Speakers’ Corner (alas, only momentarily), as I can feel another buzzword rant brewing. Ugh. Yet another term that has forged its way from the comfort and privacy of therapy, onto our feeds and into our mouths - AD NAUSEAM. The overuse of these psychology terms can dilute the true meanings of these words, even when the intentions are pure. While I don’t believe the overuse of ‘boundaries’ is harmful, it’s more about the risk of becoming desensitised to a healthy objective that many of us struggle with (hi, it’s me). In closing, I will now proceed with an entire article and a few Insta posts about… BOUNDARIES, lol. The hypocrisy is not lost on me. For me though, it’s more about the importance of the meaning and for those who are trying to mould a more secure/healthy attachment style and master self-assurance.
AGLY Ep Six - The Debrief
Single Parent IVF, Sperm Donor Program, Societal Expectations, Banter & Bravo!
Only my Australian listeners and readers will understand this reference (apologies to everyone else), but I can liken my coming and going RE this podcast to John Farnham’s never ending farewell tour - but it’s actually a weird opposite remix of that. Ughh. One minute “i’m baaacckkk”, the next minute… I’ve ghosted everyone for 11 months. Welcome to the stage… duh, duh, duhhh: dissociative state. As I sit here and try to explain or defend my lengthy hiatus, I know this is somewhat fuelled by urgency culture. I feel this pressure (self-inflicted) and then it can all become so overwhelming that I’m pushed into a state of absolute paralysis and self-loathing, regarding motivation and output. Anyway, that’s a whole other episode and blog article I should cover - coming soon in 2027, lol. Today though, I am here to celebrate the absolute $hit out of a dear friend of mine and champion her choice to embark on solo parenthood.
Binge With Me - Netflix, YouTube & Reddit
While half the population either seem to be enjoying a European summer or skiing a winter wonderland, i’ve been busy over here dissociating and consuming the entire internet and every streaming platform known to man. I’ve even downloaded Strava, Soundcloud and Reddit - whatever gets you that dopamine hit, right?! I have kept it light in this post, as i’ve got some pretty heavy AGLY podcast episodes and debriefs dropping in the next two weeks. I’ve included a mix of reviews and suggestions below - I hope you enjoy and happy viewing.